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The Attempt To Be An Ideal Parent, That Is, To Behave Correctly Toward The Child, To Raise Her Correctly, Not To Give To Little Ortoo Much, Is In Essence An Attempt To Be The Ideal Child--well Behaved And Dutiful--of One's Own Parents. But As A Result Of These Efforts The Needs Of The Child Go Unnoticed. I Cannot Listen To My Child With Empathy If I Am Inwardly Preoccupied With Being A Good Mother; I Cannot Be Open To What She Is Telling Me.

I Have Never Known A Patient To Portray His Parents More Negatively Than He Actually Experienced Them In Childhood But Always More Positively--because Idealization Of His Parents Was Essential For His Survival.

Regression To The Stage Of Early Infancy Is Not A Suitable Method In And Of Itself. Such A Regression Can Only Be Effective If It Happens In The Natural Course Of Therapy And If The Client Is Able To Maintain Adult Consciousness At The Same Time.

Depression Leads Him Close To His Wounds, But Only The Mourning For What He Has Missed, Missed At The Crucial Time, Can Lead To Real Healing.

All Children Are Born To Grow, To Develop, To Live, To Love, And To Articulate Their Needs And Feelings For Their Self-protection