Nowadays People Consider It A Disgrace To

I Make A Distinction Between Manners And Etiquette - Manners As The Principles, Which Are Eternal And Universal, Etiquette As The Particular Rules Which Are Arbitrary And Different In Different Times, Different Situations, Different Cultures.

Nowadays People Consider It A Disgrace To Admit That They Are Not Stressed.

Shame Is The Proper Reaction When One Has Purposefully Violated The Accepted Behavior Of Society. Inflicting It Is Etiquette's Response When Its Rules Are Disobeyed. The Law Has All Kinds Of Nasty Ways Of Retaliating When It Is Disregarded, But Etiquette Has Only A Sense Of Social Shame To Deter People From Treating Others In Ways They Know Are Wrong. So Naturally Miss Manners Wants To Maintain The Sense Of Shame. Some Forms Of Discomfort Are Fully Justified, And The Person Who Feels Shame Ought To Be Dealing With Removing Its Causes Rather Than Seeking To Relieve The Symptoms.

There Are Always Proper Responses, Even To Rude Questions.

Everyone Old Enough To Have A Secret Is Entitled To Have Some Place To Keep It.