If Your Reaction To Your Partner's Fear-or

For Communication To Have Meaning It Must Have A Life. It Must Transcend "you And Me" And Become "us." If I Truly Communicate, I See In You A Life That Is Not Me And Partake Of It. And You See And Partake Of Me. In A Small Way We Then Grow Out Of Our Old Selves And Become Something New. To Have This Kind Of Sharing I Cannot Enter Into A Conversation Clutching Myself. I Must Enter Into It With Loose Boundaries. I Must Give Myself To The Relationship, And Be Willing To Be What Grows Out Of It.

An Argument Is Always About What Has Been Made More Important Than The Relationship.

Sometimes When I Generalize, I Am Saying, 'let's Pretend I Am God,' And Of Course The Other Person Argues That Point Endlessly. But I Notice That If The Other Person Takes A Stand For Himself And States His Thoughts As His Thoughts, I Pay More Attention To What He Is Saying And Look Deeper In Myself.

Negative Feedback Is Better That None. I Would Rather Have A Man Hate Me Than Overlook Me. As Long As He Hates Me I Make A Difference.

Happiness Is A Present Attitude And Not A Future Condition.