Genuine Feelings Cannot Be Produced, Nor Can

Discipline Is ... Life-inhibiting, Is At The Very Least Curtailment Of Vital Activity Insofar As The Latter Cannot Develop As It Wishes But Is Confined Within Specific Limits And Subjected To Specific Rules.

Children Who Are Respected Learn Respect. Children Who Are Cared For Learn To Care For Those Weaker Than Themselves. Children Who Are Loved For What They Are Cannot Learn Intolerance. In An Environment Such As This, They Will Develop Their Own Ideals, Which Can Be Nothing Other Than Humane, Since They Grew Out Of The Experience Of Love.

Ultimately The Body Will Rebel. Even If It Can Be Temporarily Pacified With The Help Of Drugs, Cigarettes Or Medicine, It Usually Has The Last Word Because It Is Quicker To See Through Self-deception Than The Mind. We May Ignore Or Deride The Messages Of The Body, But Its Rebellion Demands To Be Heeded Because Its Language Is The Authentic Expression Of Our True Selves And Of The Strength Of Our Vitality.

The Truth About Childhood, As Many Of Us Have Had To Endure It, Is Inconceivable, Scandalous, Painful. Not Uncommonly, It Is Monstrous. Invariably, It Is Repressed. To Be Confronted With This Truth All At Once And To Try To Integrate It Into Our Consciousness, However Ardently We May Wish It, Is Clearly Impossible.

Every Child Has A Legitimate Narcissistic Need To Be Noticed, Understood, Taken Seriously, And Respected By His Mother. In The First Weeks And Months Of Life He Needs To Have The Mother At His Disposal, Must Be Able To Use Her And To Be Mirrored By Her.