Courage Can Be Just As Infectious As

People Who, As Children, Were Intellectually Far Beyond Their Parents And Therefore Admired By Them, But Who Also Therefore Had To Solve Their Own Problems Alone. These People, Who Give Us A Feeling Of Their Intellectual Strength And Will Power, Also Seem To Demand That We, Too, Ought To Fight Off Any Feeling Of Weakness With Intellectual Means. In Their Presence One Feels One Cannot Be Recognized As A Person With Problems Just As They And Their Problems Were Unrecognized By Their Parents, For Whom He Always Had To Be Strong.

Children Who Are Respected Learn Respect. Children Who Are Cared For Learn To Care For Those Weaker Than Themselves. Children Who Are Loved For What They Are Cannot Learn Intolerance. In An Environment Such As This, They Will Develop Their Own Ideals, Which Can Be Nothing Other Than Humane, Since They Grew Out Of The Experience Of Love.

Every Child Has A Legitimate Narcissistic Need To Be Noticed, Understood, Taken Seriously, And Respected By His Mother. In The First Weeks And Months Of Life He Needs To Have The Mother At His Disposal, Must Be Able To Use Her And To Be Mirrored By Her.

The Father Receives His Power From God (and From His Own Father). The Teacher Finds The Soil Already Prepared For Obedience, And The Political Leader Has Only To Harvest What Has Been Sown.

If We Do Not Work On All Three Levels -- Body, Feeling, Mind -- The Symptoms Of Our Distress Will Keep Returning, As The Body Goes On Repeating The Story Stored In Its Cells Until It Is Finally Listened To And Understood.