Anyone Can Live In A House, But

Marriage Should Be About Fun,” She Says Gently. “it’s About Friendship, And Laughter, And Trust, And Fun. If It’s Not Fun, If You Take It All Too Seriously, What’s The Point? You Know I’ve Been With Andy For Fifteen Years, And The Reason It Still Works Is Because He’s My Best Friend And He Still Makes Me Laugh. Admittedly, Not All The Time, And Often We Get Completely Bogged Down In Work, And The Kids, And Life, But He’s Still The Person I Most Want To Phone When Anything Happens In Life, And He’s Still The Person Who Makes Me Laugh The Most.

I Am Divorced, And One Of The Things I Am Tremendously Grateful For Is That My Ex-husband And I Made A Decision To Go Through Mediation. I Knew A Trial Would Drag On For Years, Would Cost Me Everything, But Worse, Would Be Devastating For Our Four Small Children.

And Suddenly I Realize That Although I've Never Thought About Being In Love With Nick Before, All The Right Ingredients Are There. I Fancy Him. I Like Him. He's My Friend. He Makes Me Laugh. I Love Being With Him. And I Start To Feel All Sort Of Warm And Glowy, And Screw The Other Stuff. Screw The Stuff About Him Having No Money, And Living In A Bedsit, And Not Being What I Thought I Wanted. I'm Just Going To Go With This And See Where It Ends Up. I Mean, No One Says I Have To Marry The Guy, For God's Sake.

I Do What Most Women Do. I Meet Someone And Some Of It's Right, Maybe He Looks Right, Or Has The Right Job, Or The Right Background, And, Instead Of Sitting Back And Waiting For Him To Reveal His Other Bits, I Make Them Up. I Decide How He Thinks, How He's Going To Treat Me, And, Sure Enough, Every Time I Conclude That This Time He's Definitely My Perfect Man, And All Of A Sudden, Well, Not So Suddenly Perhaps, Usually Around Six Months After We've Split Up, I See That He Wasn't The Person I Thought He Was At All.

When I First Started Writing, I Was Living In England And I Had That Uniquely English Sense Of Sarcasm, Which Has Definitely Seemed To Have Left Me. I Am A Naturalized American And My Sensibility Has Become Far More American.